tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post8527762173056213895..comments2024-01-22T21:12:20.299+11:00Comments on Lilly's Life: Wrestling with a MonsterLillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-75675089991637132122008-06-15T03:57:00.000+10:002008-06-15T03:57:00.000+10:00Dear Lilly, your response to me and to Tulip is so...Dear Lilly, your response to me and to Tulip is so astounding. It moved me to tears. You are deeply wise and have SO much to offer other women just in being yourself. I am highly impressed by your character. You just keep listening to that wonderful heart of yours and you will do as you are ALREADY doing....change lives. Love, Rob<BR/><BR/>PS And Tulip...Thank you as well!!! Hugs, RAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-83937040695584541922008-06-14T17:31:00.000+10:002008-06-14T17:31:00.000+10:00Robin - truly thank you for your inspiration - you...Robin - truly thank you for your inspiration - your last post on your blog really made me think about lots of things. You have a wonderful habit of doing that for people you know. I guess I am just not so afraid of what happened and have nothing to hide anymore. Its a tad self indulgent to put it on a blog but then again the blog is about my life and it was a red letter day for me yesterday. I appreciate your views, they truly mean a lot to me. Sometimes I think we all keep the bad stuff too private and sharing often lessens the pain and normalises the struggles we all endure form time to time. Its also important the people are made aware that this pesonality disorder is growing and can never be cured. We all have horrendous stuff happen in our lives but it makes the great stuff all the more sweeter! Thanks for being part of the positive, honest, great stuff!!!<BR/><BR/>Tulip - you know what I know and you have pulled me through many a bad day. But hey, what doesnt kill us makes us stronger right? Our stories have many, many chapters left. Some day we will look upon it as a blessing. Some day. Have a fantastic weekend!!!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-51177221457418222462008-06-14T06:21:00.000+10:002008-06-14T06:21:00.000+10:00I too believe it is behind you Lilly. I also see y...I too believe it is behind you Lilly. I also see you as someone who takes hardship or pain and grows from it. All that you've been through makes you fiercely strong, courageously open and honest and full of dignity and integrity. I've seen that in you since our first meeting. I am so proud of you for this and for the way you take back your life everyday. I see it in your warmth, your humor, your willingness to be kind and helpful, your cooking, your writing, your amazing strength of character. You face the world as a vibrant life force. One willing to feel pain, grief, joy, sorrow, wonder, love, etc. You are a fully alive human being. <BR/><BR/>This story is wonderfully told. We don't need the specifics to see/hear the tale. It is a global story for many women and children and some men. You have told it from a heartfelt and yet strong place. The events and the person may be dark but your spirit is shining. You have been faced with darkness and yet you are still an astoundingly bright light in the world. I applauded you for this line:<BR/><BR/>"...because it's a small part of my life which although has markedly shaped me, never will define me."<BR/><BR/>That is so true!!! You are MUCH larger than that and will only become more so because you have used all you've been through to grow and help others. I don't know why but in my life it has often been the most horrendous things that have totally changed my life....made me REALLY grow. I've become wiser and more ompassionate. <BR/><BR/>You are brave and good Lilly. Love, Rob.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-86059518383398352332008-06-14T00:07:00.000+10:002008-06-14T00:07:00.000+10:00Lilly,Only victims who have experienced the madnes...Lilly,<BR/>Only victims who have experienced the madness that you live while in the clutches of these evil creeps can fully understand how an intelligent woman could let this happen.<BR/><BR/>It’s not as simple as them being BIG time control freaks, liars and bully’s … It’s by far more sinister! <BR/>I was honestly ready to book myself into a mental institution, nothing made sense anymore and my ‘self’ was shattering into pieces. <BR/>Emotional abuse leaves you unbalanced and you think you're going crazy. It’s a slow, insidious, breaking down of the self-esteem of their victim until there's next to nothing left. And what’s more you don’t even suspect that it’s happening to you until it’s too late and you’re trapped. <BR/>It’s very scary and difficult to explain it to yourself let alone others.<BR/><BR/>After nearly 16 months (but who’s counting) of freedom I'm still dealing both emotionally and legally with a psychopath, a consequence of caring deeply for another human being who turned out to be a wolf in sheep’s clothing. If you don’t know people like this exist …you don’t know to look out for them.<BR/><BR/>My biggest mistake was to dismiss my gut instinct that was trying to tell me that things aren’t right. <BR/><BR/>Fantastic post Lilly …well done and congratulations on making it to 2 years!! Go Girl! <BR/><BR/>Tulip XXX (Horticultural sign writer of the West)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-83086100417108984202008-06-13T23:03:00.000+10:002008-06-13T23:03:00.000+10:00Tashabud - thanks for your comments but you know i...Tashabud - thanks for your comments but you know its behind me now for the most part. Thats why I think I can come out and say it. I just wanted to say it and be done with it and not carry it with me another year. Going through this also made me realise that everyone has things go wrong in their lives and the truth is its taught me a lot. Maybe I can help someone else who is going through something similar. I think I have learnt a lot about myself, and I have lots to be thankful for. Heaps, in fact. Thats why that JK Rowling speech really hit home to me. I have a great, great family - its just unfortunate I was living in another cuntry at the time and isolated. Anyway, everything happens for a reason I really beleive that. By the way, loved your new chapter. Cant wait for the next one!!! Thanks for stopping by, always appreciate your comments.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-12956261139882541092008-06-13T22:08:00.000+10:002008-06-13T22:08:00.000+10:00Lilly, I wish I could give you a hug right now. Th...Lilly, I wish I could give you a hug right now. That part of your life was so sad and horrible, it seems like, with the way you described it. I hope your family was supportive of you during that time. It's good that you're talking about it. I've read that talking out bad experiences is paramount to healing. It's also good that you were able to free yourself from the monster's grips. Let's celebrate your freedom. I'm raising a toast for you right now. I wish you the best. There truly are real good men out there. Not all of them is evil or monster. Have a great weekend.tashabudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17707659728810975773noreply@blogger.com