tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post5919202299426511122..comments2024-01-22T21:12:20.299+11:00Comments on Lilly's Life: More of a lesson in Humanity Lillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-28734686529335871362013-01-03T10:06:35.864+11:002013-01-03T10:06:35.864+11:00It's 7:15am here in Victoria right now, 20 min...It's 7:15am here in Victoria right now, 20 minuits ago I rang the carers hotline, the receptionist told me they were not open til 7:00, I said that I was desperate and really needed someone, anyone, to talk to, I was in tears when I confessed that I was in fact contemplating suicede (life had become that unbearabl), she said someone would call me back in a few minutes. My tears stopped when I recieved the text message, now I just feel hollow, empty & numb... it reads.....<br /><br />"Julian, our service is not open till 8:30 am.<br />Please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 if you need to talk to someone before then.<br />Thanks Carers Victoria."<br /><br />I've been up all night searching for help or some advice or answers or maybe just make contact with someone who understood what I was going through, I registered on a support forum, but was unable to post anything, I felt I may depress an otherwise happy bunch of folks, eventually I started researching methods of suicide and ordered what I needed on ebay, thank god for ebay.<br /><br />I'm 55 years old now and feel like I'm 70, I took care of my father up until his death, but I was much, much younger then, odd that it was just a handfull of years ago... At his deathbed in the hospital my sister slapped my face and told me "I know what your doing!!"... To this day I am compleatly mystified by that, I thought that what I was doing was called "the right thing", but I've been wrong before, I'd ask her to clarify the statement but I haven't seen her since, I think she meant the fact that my parents promised to leave me money and a home in exchange for keeping them out of a nursing home.. but I'll never know for sure....<br /><br />She needn't of worried, my mother now 91 has no intentention of making a will or even arranging for me to stay on in "her" housing commission house should anything happen to her. <br /><br />I've just deleted a few paragraphs of explanation to my current state of mind, I'll just say that I know exactly how that old guy must be feeling each and every waking moment of his life, it's called misery it's cold and dark and bleak and it never, never ends. having my mother tell me she doesn't care when I tell her that I'm seriously worried about my own health and complaining that she'll have nobody to get her groceries when I told her I lost 7 kilograms and was afraid I might be dieing of something!!! is just the tip of the iceberg, there is just a constant stream of petty selfish abuse that is too hurtfull to describe.<br /><br />I think you deserve to be on a short list for a sainthood for taking the time to help let alone bothering to try to understand the situation, I doubt any one could grasp the effect that (not so) small act of kindness would have on someone in his situation.<br /><br />God bless you, for understanding.<br /><br />JulesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-76818703873159591182012-11-01T16:05:52.225+11:002012-11-01T16:05:52.225+11:00I thought this was a great read, sad and my eyes f...I thought this was a great read, sad and my eyes filled up but an important reminder for us all. Thank you.Tahlianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-23799267346711065132012-10-30T07:58:55.760+11:002012-10-30T07:58:55.760+11:00I agree with other commenters, it is indeed a love...I agree with other commenters, it is indeed a lovely and heartbreak story that many people are experiencing across the world. The numbers are growing apparently and I wonder where all the carers are going to come from.Mrs Woolcottnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-76980157455726643932012-10-29T17:22:32.587+11:002012-10-29T17:22:32.587+11:00That is a lovely story. For any of us with aged pa...That is a lovely story. For any of us with aged parents it is very meaningful indeed, thanks so much for posting it.Katehttp://www.smh.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-15968946976838001042012-10-29T07:18:23.433+11:002012-10-29T07:18:23.433+11:00The way the rates of dementia are going it is some...The way the rates of dementia are going it is something we are going to be seeing more and more.Sancha Fishernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-2793162638141489182012-10-29T07:14:33.218+11:002012-10-29T07:14:33.218+11:00Thanks for visiting Umashanker. Appreciate your co...Thanks for visiting Umashanker. Appreciate your comment. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-8755648547652043622012-10-29T07:12:21.556+11:002012-10-29T07:12:21.556+11:00Aw :-) xAw :-) xLillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-38135270055592120782012-10-28T15:36:12.898+11:002012-10-28T15:36:12.898+11:00Yes I knew it was going to be touchy but didn'...Yes I knew it was going to be touchy but didn't realise it could be so moving. Thanks for sharing.umashankarhttp://uspandey.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-88495655663816675372012-10-27T18:18:50.808+11:002012-10-27T18:18:50.808+11:00Aw, that was such a sweet post. Made me all teary....Aw, that was such a sweet post. Made me all teary.Banoffinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-28888312122026013282012-10-26T16:04:46.379+11:002012-10-26T16:04:46.379+11:00Thanks Sandra, it made me open my eyes up a bit wi...Thanks Sandra, it made me open my eyes up a bit wider too.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-33759428356977488482012-10-25T21:07:35.220+11:002012-10-25T21:07:35.220+11:00Great reminder, thanks very much, bought tears to ...Great reminder, thanks very much, bought tears to my eyes and that never happens.Sandranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-83764823419430493172012-10-25T19:23:31.610+11:002012-10-25T19:23:31.610+11:00Thanks Erica for stopping by and commenting. Yes, ...Thanks Erica for stopping by and commenting. Yes, this man is a gem, just like the hundreds of thousands of others out there doing it tough.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-37535066251404601212012-10-25T19:22:30.605+11:002012-10-25T19:22:30.605+11:00Thank JJ, I know you help your friend and your god...Thank JJ, I know you help your friend and your godson too. Yes we all should be offering help where we can, even it it turns out to be a stranger. I have changed my views about this now.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-56756910167113523572012-10-25T19:21:15.049+11:002012-10-25T19:21:15.049+11:00that is a great point, Carers should be acknowledg...that is a great point, Carers should be acknowledged and asked how they are. I know I too make the mistake about asking how the person being cared for is and often forget to ask about the Carer.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-51614603519723674942012-10-25T14:52:11.337+11:002012-10-25T14:52:11.337+11:00Someone sent me this link. What a lovely story and...Someone sent me this link. What a lovely story and it was very sweet of you to engage with this couple. Everyone rushes around not even acknowledging others anymore and this poor man must have really been at wits end. He must hold his breath every time he ventures out. I am sure that every carer knows perfectly well how he feels. Erica Badstowe (Sydney)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-46571002524855116562012-10-25T11:27:38.429+11:002012-10-25T11:27:38.429+11:00And this is exactly why I love you, Lilly. What a...And this is exactly why I love you, Lilly. What a kind thing to do for this couple. I'm sure your time was a huge gift for the husband and a lovely visit for the wife.<br /><br />Care-giving, especially for a loved one, is a difficult but great job and an extra hand is always helpful.<br /><br />You have a good heart. xo jjJoanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-80584663053005814512012-10-25T10:23:08.784+11:002012-10-25T10:23:08.784+11:00Thanks for the post,Lilly. It reminded that during...Thanks for the post,Lilly. It reminded that during my years as a carer I had a good friend who always asked first how I was doing before enquiring about my very ill husband. She brightened my day and made me feel appreciated.Mageenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-58673496127511575192012-10-25T07:09:47.753+11:002012-10-25T07:09:47.753+11:00What a Scotsman wears under his Kilt<a href="http://lunatic-kate.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/another-few-funnies.html" rel="nofollow"> What a Scotsman wears under his Kilt</a>Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-74469514779021131902012-10-25T06:30:47.298+11:002012-10-25T06:30:47.298+11:00Lol Kate that is hilarious. I knew you wouldn'...Lol Kate that is hilarious. I knew you wouldn't let me down!!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-24977078068860098992012-10-25T01:45:11.478+11:002012-10-25T01:45:11.478+11:00Just for your delectation 'Lilly O' ! OOp...Just for your delectation 'Lilly O' ! OOps.. <br /><br />I tried to show a song which explains exactly what is worn underneath a kilt but your blog wouldn't allow it so I've added it to my blog ENJOY !!<br /><br />Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16979505705280901138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-54056777957296799752012-10-24T23:35:12.264+11:002012-10-24T23:35:12.264+11:00Thanks Nancy and yes there are so many Carers who ...Thanks Nancy and yes there are so many Carers who need all the support we as a community can give them. Thanks for your comment.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-77165610952992689932012-10-24T23:34:30.620+11:002012-10-24T23:34:30.620+11:00Thanks for stopping by Laurie, appreciate the comm...Thanks for stopping by Laurie, appreciate the comment and visit.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-65023826332858620652012-10-24T23:33:47.048+11:002012-10-24T23:33:47.048+11:00:-):-)Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-56213005353254786202012-10-24T23:33:21.529+11:002012-10-24T23:33:21.529+11:00Thanks Frances and thanks for stopping by.Thanks Frances and thanks for stopping by.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-33634115566327562722012-10-24T23:33:02.717+11:002012-10-24T23:33:02.717+11:00Oh Oceangirl, thanks, glad you stopped by.Oh Oceangirl, thanks, glad you stopped by.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.com