tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post5281247700239502382..comments2024-01-22T21:12:20.299+11:00Comments on Lilly's Life: Don’t be afraid to speak outLillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-60860892884030540662012-11-30T07:25:09.290+11:002012-11-30T07:25:09.290+11:00Oh dear, its when it happens in broad daylight tha...Oh dear, its when it happens in broad daylight that you start to wonder what is going on. It is such a beautiful city but like everywhere else violence is growing. You have to be alert not alarmed I guess. And then focus on all the great things this city offers, lol.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-64329992827242473902012-11-30T07:23:25.309+11:002012-11-30T07:23:25.309+11:00I dont think its a case that the victims dont want...I dont think its a case that the victims dont want help its just that the victims are ashamed, they are terrified that they will get hurt even worse if the police intervene, they think its their fault (as that is what they are brainwashed by the abuser with) and there is also that connection to the abuser like Stockholm Syndrome. It is very hard to understand. It is sick really. Th epolice of course don't do much in these situation unless the victim is hurt badly. This means the victim is often left with the abuser when the police leave. And it starts all over again. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-60294313630884490122012-11-30T07:20:35.425+11:002012-11-30T07:20:35.425+11:00Oh that is a shocking story Kay. However, I know f...Oh that is a shocking story Kay. However, I know from personal experience your friend would have felt such shame and like she was the one to blame somehow. You have to be in her shoes to get it. It is very hard to explain. So glad she got out for the kids sake. It is a violent world these days and scary when you see this kind of thing in what is apparently the most liveable city in the world.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-44231878990580601532012-11-30T07:18:30.439+11:002012-11-30T07:18:30.439+11:00I think you do have to think of your own safety. I...I think you do have to think of your own safety. In situations like this I think I would more readily call the police myself and not assume someone else is going to do it. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-33599187828879426202012-11-30T07:17:34.835+11:002012-11-30T07:17:34.835+11:00Thanks xxThanks xxLillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-59823993395782058582012-11-30T07:17:21.123+11:002012-11-30T07:17:21.123+11:00Yes I think I saw a beer being passed around. I wo...Yes I think I saw a beer being passed around. I would hate to be a bus driver, what they must have to put up with.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-54665747815755644542012-11-30T07:16:39.815+11:002012-11-30T07:16:39.815+11:00I am not sure as you do not actually get to hear h...I am not sure as you do not actually get to hear her singing. She must have started and stopped but those guys kept on berating her. Its how they do it that is so apalling. The language and with small children around. Yuk!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-40605249262267009742012-11-30T07:15:34.789+11:002012-11-30T07:15:34.789+11:00Yes you do have to be brave it is true. He he, vio...Yes you do have to be brave it is true. He he, violence interrupter, I like it. Harder to do when a crowd is getting violent like on that bus but perhaps there are some situations we can help out. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-12867734374080610402012-11-30T07:13:48.057+11:002012-11-30T07:13:48.057+11:00Christmas Giveaway, I will be over, lol. It is har...Christmas Giveaway, I will be over, lol. It is hard to know what to do except I hope someone would do something to help me if I was in that situation. Too much violence around these days. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-3934402037629519322012-11-30T07:11:43.560+11:002012-11-30T07:11:43.560+11:00There are a lot of bleeps given the swearing which...There are a lot of bleeps given the swearing which says a lot in itself. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-1691886277925279312012-11-30T07:10:55.997+11:002012-11-30T07:10:55.997+11:00You can say that again. Horrible behaviour.You can say that again. Horrible behaviour.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-1755457031086011112012-11-30T07:10:26.691+11:002012-11-30T07:10:26.691+11:00There are no easy answers and the reality is what ...There are no easy answers and the reality is what I think I would do and what I do when faced with such situations my be entirely different things. Thanks for dropping by Trish. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-74838716470561842732012-11-29T15:13:33.348+11:002012-11-29T15:13:33.348+11:00Such terrifying situations and there is no easy an...Such terrifying situations and there is no easy answers - so glad you are free from the experience and had the strength (? support) to leave Lilly. <br /><br />It is hard for bystanders to intervene but very important we try to do something.♥.Trish.♥ Drumboyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482654455512269065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-60269093119703025182012-11-28T18:24:10.233+11:002012-11-28T18:24:10.233+11:00O.M.G sometimes I am ashamed to be an Australian. ...O.M.G sometimes I am ashamed to be an Australian. Disgusting behavior.Jillnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-67898422564305329492012-11-28T12:09:34.653+11:002012-11-28T12:09:34.653+11:00I couldn't Quite understand what was happening...I couldn't Quite understand what was happening in that video. But yes - it can be scary to intervene and soul-destroying not to. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-59848152687269060722012-11-28T07:57:12.706+11:002012-11-28T07:57:12.706+11:00True Jen. There were 3 of them abusing the women. ...True Jen. There were 3 of them abusing the women. I would not have said a word to them. The joys of public transport. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-28244347856373725472012-11-28T07:55:28.029+11:002012-11-28T07:55:28.029+11:00Apparently the impact of domestic violence costs t...Apparently the impact of domestic violence costs tens of billions a year. And growing. Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-79848579627759780492012-11-28T07:53:42.289+11:002012-11-28T07:53:42.289+11:00Hey Lisa, can you comment on your blog?Hey Lisa, can you comment on your blog?Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-44444079175610635222012-11-28T07:52:30.361+11:002012-11-28T07:52:30.361+11:00You are lucky you couldn't hear it Naomi. It w...You are lucky you couldn't hear it Naomi. It was not nice at all.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-74540874086160183242012-11-28T07:41:57.663+11:002012-11-28T07:41:57.663+11:00True, I think I better start posting more positive...True, I think I better start posting more positive things to justify why Melbourne is the most liveable city in the world. Doesn't seem like it lately does it?Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-55314444428535903222012-11-27T17:56:19.251+11:002012-11-27T17:56:19.251+11:00There's been some horrendous events these last...There's been some horrendous events these last couple of months in Melbourne. Frustration, pent up anger and violence directed against women, foreigners, everyone and anyone in fact :(Young Wertherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08425738709559520380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-6865565208108965102012-11-27T16:18:02.004+11:002012-11-27T16:18:02.004+11:00Oh Lilly... This is a tough one. First, I'm s...Oh Lilly... This is a tough one. First, I'm so very sorry you had that awful experience and I'm glad you are free and away from that hatefulness.<br /><br />I'd like to think I'd speak up if I was in a situation to help someone in need-- I'd LIKE to think so but sometimes in some situations, I'm sad to say I'm not so sure. Here in the safety of my home it would be a breeze to say, "Of course" I'd jump in but in reality it's not always so simple.<br /><br />You gave us a lot to think about here. Thank you for raising awareness on this issue with such an honest and frank post. xoxox jj<br /><br />PS Stop by, I'm having a Christmas Giveaway!Joanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-54396586612792149882012-11-27T12:58:15.434+11:002012-11-27T12:58:15.434+11:00I have been a victim of domestic violence when I w...I have been a victim of domestic violence when I was a young mother in my first marriage and I hid it from everyone for a while until I got brave enough, fed enough to do something.<br />I have witnessed a parent abusing a child and done nothing and I've witnessed and intervened once successfully. Having a cell phone and being able to call for help more instantly made me more brave the 2nd time. I must say that in some situations it feels dangerous to intervene in the moment because you can become a victim yourself or escalate the situation - yet there are brave people who do so every day. This is such an important post. Thanks for sharing. I will continue to think about this and renew my commitment to being an active peace pusher and violence interrupter.Can-Canhttp://blog.candelariasilva.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-70307878583608568602012-11-27T12:54:50.628+11:002012-11-27T12:54:50.628+11:00I am not sure how I would react but I think I woul...I am not sure how I would react but I think I would be way too chicken to say anything. Clearly she kept singing and I think that was a little stupid on her part. And as far as those guys. Neanderthals. Marty Pnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-80686231827291320812012-11-27T07:40:36.509+11:002012-11-27T07:40:36.509+11:00Unfortunately I didn't understand anything bei...Unfortunately I didn't understand anything being said, NOR, could I hear the singing---But, I certainly got that something bad was happening on that Bus! I'm not sure what I would have done---One must be careful with people who are out of control and dangerous because of that. Like you, I think I might have tried to help the person being abused---including getting off the bus.OldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.com