tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post1581592002439544291..comments2024-01-22T21:12:20.299+11:00Comments on Lilly's Life: There's endurance and then there's ENDURANCE.Lillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-74327724532495789722010-06-05T11:45:11.959+10:002010-06-05T11:45:11.959+10:00This is a great post! Good thing I read it this mo...This is a great post! Good thing I read it this morning. A nice way to start the day.dining tableshttp://www.erikorganic.com/dining-room/dining-room-table.shtmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-51291762269011780642010-05-21T11:44:13.019+10:002010-05-21T11:44:13.019+10:00@ Lady Fi, thanks for your comment. Love the word ...@ Lady Fi, thanks for your comment. Love the word anew!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-81767318870704236942010-05-18T23:58:27.062+10:002010-05-18T23:58:27.062+10:00Great post... sometimes it takes more courage to w...Great post... sometimes it takes more courage to walk away and start anew than to try and endure through something.LadyFihttp://ladyfi.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-10794880913499656812010-05-18T09:21:55.881+10:002010-05-18T09:21:55.881+10:00@ Betty - yes many of us are at that age where our...@ Betty - yes many of us are at that age where our parents are aging and need our help. Its a time for tough decisions sometimes and I hope that your mother's health issues can be overcome easily. Big hugs to you.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-33187344399145117622010-05-17T22:12:12.922+10:002010-05-17T22:12:12.922+10:00Great post Lilly! You are such a wise person and I...Great post Lilly! You are such a wise person and I always learn something here.<br />I think my biggest trial is happening at this moment. It´s concerning my mothers health and how to handle it. It´s really going to be a challenge and I hope I have the ENDURANCE to go through it. <br />Thanks for the words of encouragement!Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-58506092065389175232010-05-17T16:26:14.555+10:002010-05-17T16:26:14.555+10:00Thank you for this. Came at the right time for me....Thank you for this. Came at the right time for me.Mageenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-72017685988341466142010-05-17T15:42:08.157+10:002010-05-17T15:42:08.157+10:00@ Trish - Oh my goodness I did not know. Big hugs....@ Trish - Oh my goodness I did not know. Big hugs. I will email you.<br /><br />@ Ayak - I would love to hear your whole story sometime. As long as we learn the lessons. Sometimes we need our heads banged together hard until we get it, ha ha. So glad it all worked out for your! Bravo!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-19773958551838756152010-05-17T15:38:33.951+10:002010-05-17T15:38:33.951+10:00@ Sarah - oh you have had a difficult time and I a...@ Sarah - oh you have had a difficult time and I am sorry for that. Thanks for your comment, it is great. Take Care.<br /><br />@ Naomi - Yes, I know you understand about walking away too. Thanks for your comment.<br /><br />@ Banoffi - We jsut have to deal with these things as best we can and really enjoy the great moments life throws our way or that we actively go out and pursue. Thanks for your comment.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-12902104897429790952010-05-17T15:35:03.858+10:002010-05-17T15:35:03.858+10:00Oh Lilly you have endurance plus.
For me the hard...Oh Lilly you have endurance plus.<br /><br />For me the hardest trial I've had to go through would be the loss of my baby daughter @26wks, after we waited 12 yrs for her.ther. I was pregnant when she was <br /><br />I agree with other commenters that my Christian faith and the support & love of my hsband & close family & friends got us through this.<br /><br />"But what happens if you are facing ADVERSITY with a big bloody A the size of which you’ve never seen before..."<br /><br />Now we face another huge challenge as my husband has just been diagnosed with cancer.<br /><br /><i>You wake up everyday and breath.<br />You believe in yourself that you can get through this.<br />You hug each other.<br />You find people to support you and you ask for help when you need it.<br />You remember that its ok to cry.</i><br /><br />Ps I found this somewhere but author is unknown.♥.Trish.♥ Drumboyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482654455512269065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-44735294630932817272010-05-17T15:28:58.618+10:002010-05-17T15:28:58.618+10:00Sometimes we don't always learn from the first...Sometimes we don't always learn from the first big mistake we make. My first marriage was a big mistake, but then I went on to a second one having learned nothing. I swore I wouldn't marry for a third time...but I did. But it worked out fine because my eyes were wide open third time around.<br /><br />Wonderful post Lilly.Ayakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903896106779269050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-18588421904506889372010-05-16T23:50:18.024+10:002010-05-16T23:50:18.024+10:00It is true sometimes we hit our heads against bric...It is true sometimes we hit our heads against brick walls trying to make something right. Life is a lot crueller than we can even contemplate sometimes. However, it just makes the good times sweeter. Most of my trials have been career related but who knos what is around the corner. Good post.Banoffihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17734994490564971100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-33258242999377546242010-05-16T20:24:34.188+10:002010-05-16T20:24:34.188+10:00Great post, my dear. And I so agree---knowing whe...Great post, my dear. And I so agree---knowing when to walk away takes as much courage and enduarnce---maybe more---and to me that is NOT a defeat. That is absolutely a Victory. Keeping oneself "in tact" is so important, and knowing when to get off the train before it crashes---<br /><br />I cannot believe that woman took the Driving Test so many many MANY Times....Good God! I know some would say that is tenacity---not me. I think it's kind of coo coo...! But good for her she finally made it--I hope she is not too old to drive now...lol!<br /><br />There have been many adversity's to overcome in my life---Some harder than others. But I do believe I learned something from each one. I wish I hadn't had to go through them, all the same.OldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-20939149469632583042010-05-16T17:55:43.366+10:002010-05-16T17:55:43.366+10:00For me the hardest trial I have had to go through ...For me the hardest trial I have had to go through would be the death of my mother. I was pregnant when she was diagnosed with Alzhiemers. I was devastated but was on auto pilot for a long time. I think we go through the motions of living sometimes until something happens which jolts us out of our comfort zones. We are never the same afterwards and it makes us stronger and it makes us more resilient that is for sure. For me, if I didn't have faith in my religious beliefs and the love of a close family then I am not sure how I would have got through this. Trials put our lives into perspective. Material things mean nothing. It is just stuff. People on the other hand mean everything. They alone can break our hearts. Yet so many people never learn the lessons and continue chasing rainbows and pots of gold.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-54843203188111860622010-05-16T17:54:46.559+10:002010-05-16T17:54:46.559+10:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-83088227600399715952010-05-16T17:33:39.300+10:002010-05-16T17:33:39.300+10:00@ Sucharita - yes, the issue is that if you do not...@ Sucharita - yes, the issue is that if you do not heed the warning signs and brush it off, you get stuck with the albatross around your neck until it chokes you.<br /><br />@ Can-can - you I think have healthy self esteem. I love that and it is something we should all be working on. Love yourself first and then everything does fall into place. And I am not talking about self love in the narcissistic way just that we need to respect ourselves and our boundararies first otherwise no-one else is going to do it for us. I LOVE that line about being on the cross. Martyrdom - is one thing but FEAR and SHAME is what keep most people in harms way for so long I think.<br /><br />@ Librarian Lee - glad to hear it and I hope it helps in some way. Feel free to email me anytime.<br /><br />@ Kimmy - Delusion, so true. sometimes such bad things happen that the only way we can cope is by pushing it to faraway places. The human spirit can put up with losts of things. I think the issue is that we must listen to our gut instinct about everything rather than rationalise it too much. The warning signs are always there, easier to see in hiindsight of course. We must also make sure that actions and words are the same. Nice to have you visit.Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-30384754299380924132010-05-16T17:18:11.434+10:002010-05-16T17:18:11.434+10:00Hi Lilly!
Well there is endurance and perseverance...Hi Lilly!<br />Well there is endurance and perseverance and then there is delusion. Whilst I have huge respect for those that keep on trying, it reminds me of that Albert Einstein quote:<br />"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"<br /><br />It is a fine balance. Sometimes I think getting what we desire/need requires a little creativity and a heavy amount of crazy.<br /><br />Happy Sunday. :-)Kimmy @ kimmythingyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11618841750814941148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-11382479296457810442010-05-16T12:44:27.946+10:002010-05-16T12:44:27.946+10:00Oh my! Thank you for this post. I was about to ty...Oh my! Thank you for this post. I was about to type, "You can't even know." But I bet you do! My blogging friend Candalaria sent me here - and it was just the right thing to do! You have said, clearly and sweetly, the words that I can't quite get out - and I thank you!Librarian Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07899555415894018916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-57484730280358013722010-05-16T11:56:17.391+10:002010-05-16T11:56:17.391+10:00My first husband got my twenties and I decided he ...My first husband got my twenties and I decided he wasn't going to get my thirties even though I knew it would hurt my kids. I couldn't make him better for me, we weren't equally yoked and I left.<br />The most difficult thing was leaving an incredibly meaningful and impactful (for the community it represented) job that was slowly killing my spirit. I worried that it wouldn't go on without my energy (it is petering out slowly) but I had to leave. Once again, it was me or it and I chose me. I'm broker than I've been in years but somehow managing (although the hub just got a lay-off notice).<br />The Anita Baker song about fairy tales talks about "no living life in paradise or fairy tales." Glad you triumphed. Let go, let God, try something new, get off the cross, Sister, we need the wood. Congratulations.Can-Canhttp://blog.candelariasilva.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-84171192004921336972010-05-16T00:47:59.924+10:002010-05-16T00:47:59.924+10:00Sometimes endurance becomes an albatross round the...Sometimes endurance becomes an albatross round the neck. The screamers and shouters often get out of trouble more easily. Thanks for sharing your story and the insights that pain and time gave you.Sucharita Sarkarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07802171314546508539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-16786007666560094052010-05-15T12:31:28.235+10:002010-05-15T12:31:28.235+10:00absolutely great advice... brava!absolutely great advice... brava!laughingwolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873675614347328116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-6858602123884551342010-05-15T11:54:04.621+10:002010-05-15T11:54:04.621+10:00Very, very well said Lilly. I too, am was one of ...Very, very well said Lilly. I too, am was one of those people who always thought things would work out and that love conquered all-- Ha! Been there, done that, not buying into it again! I'm glad it's behind me.<br /><br />These days, Adversity has come in the form of health challenges for loved ones and myself. this time around, I think with my head not with my heart (and eat a lot of chocolate).<br /><br />Wishing you a wonderful weekend.<br />jjJoanna Jenkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836376588710862173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-42857417934095171832010-05-15T11:19:19.712+10:002010-05-15T11:19:19.712+10:00Sometimes you just read things at the right time.
...Sometimes you just read things at the right time.<br />I'm a bit of a hanger-in-there, trying to decide if I can let go or not. I'm reading lots from different people over the last few days, that really tell me that I should let go.<br />It still isn't easy though. I feel like I need to be pushed.melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07972801979514993827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-25602982011032847132010-05-15T11:05:49.384+10:002010-05-15T11:05:49.384+10:00@ Kirti - I think we all get our share of raw deal...@ Kirti - I think we all get our share of raw deals and thats why I think when we are ready we need to share our experiences. I think there is also a funny side to most things that happen - it just takes a while to see that side though!<br /><br />@ AF1blog - you touched on something important here - if we dont learn the lessons we keep hitting our heads against a brick wall. You have to learn the lesson, change and move on. My head cant take another beating lol - I get it, I get it..30 years sheesh! That is a long time!<br /><br />@ Lisleman - you are so right. I love your thoughts on the gender of the Universe. And balance thats what I aim for. So true!<br /><br />@ PHST - thanks for your comment and I have emailed you. Some experiences are too raw to blog about let alone talk about. Big hugs to you.<br /><br />@ Christine - its interesting the work analogy. I ahve been guilty fo the same things. Sometimes we confuse loyalty and hanging in there with doing the right thing. Its only when we leave a bad situation we realise that we should ahve done it a long time before. Fear can paralyse us I think. Glad you are happy and at peace now though.<br /><br />@ Lisleman - thanks,<br /><br />@ Helen - yep, I want to be like you when I finally grow up. You are the eptimom of style and grace and bravery to me.<br /><br />@ Peggy - well you are the person that inspired me to not let a certain institution walk all over me either. You have dealt with your trials and come through the other side with a big smile on your face and a lot of heart. Thank you!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-34844998131421265552010-05-15T09:11:19.418+10:002010-05-15T09:11:19.418+10:00Bravo Lilly!!!!
I am sooo happy the Big A will no...Bravo Lilly!!!!<br /><br />I am sooo happy the Big A will no longer be bothering you this lifetime. It took me 15 years to learn to "know when to fold 'em" as opposed to "know when to hold 'em".<br /><br />And great advise about telling people time heals everything, it is best just to be there for them...love the bikini analogy.<br /><br />All in all another fanastic post.<br /><br />Big big hugs.<br />Peggy xxxxoooomiruspeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980477108868960140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1339261543193718354.post-74339441383810157522010-05-15T05:19:05.133+10:002010-05-15T05:19:05.133+10:00Oh Lilly ... you already know I have been faced wi...Oh Lilly ... you already know I have been faced with a few life challenges. I would like to think I faced them squarely (though I know it's not completely true) .. but I do realize every battle has made me a stronger, better person.<br /><br />And I so appreciate YOU!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16619199535376925989noreply@blogger.com