Tuesday 23 September 2014

Have you ever left an anonymous note for someone?

"No, I never have," I told my friend, firmly shaking my head from side to side.

He was laughing about the fact someone had left him an anonymous note on his front door that said, "You have such a fantastic sound system in your car. I love hearing it morning, noon and night. Thank you so very much." 

"Gee", I said, "who would be so passive aggressive to do that? Why can't they just speak to you in person given they know where you live?"

"Besides", I waxed lyrical, "who could be bothered? The older I get the more chilled and tolerant I am. Why sweat the small stuff when there is so much else to worry about?"

Oh Really, is that so Mother Teresa? Is that what you really think?
 
Well, I know I usually blog out my frustrations which is strangely quite therapeutic but I have never written or given anyone an anonymous note.

At least, that was the case, before I walked out of the cafĂ© straight after that conversation into the car park and saw this.  



What? How? Who? Why?

I started to write imaginary notes in my head like,

FOUND: One pair of coke bottle glasses. I believe they may be yours.

And somehow, just somehow, those words made their way onto the driver's window. Put there by some chilled out, tolerant, really mature Mother Theresa type.  

And, just after I took the above photo, someone else came up and put this on the windscreen.

 
 
Clearly we uptight types need to blog more and vent our feelings to the blogosphere rather than attempt to graffiti car windows.  I mean who would be so passive aggressive to do that kind of thing anyway?
 
Have you ever received an anonymous note or written one to someone else? 

38 comments:

  1. Lily, this is such a common occurence where I am (the careless parking, I mean), even the white painted line markers have got fed up and worn out. If you tell anyone, they ask something akin to "Is this your father's land ?" ..... :-)

    But yes, we did receive an anonymous letter by post once.

    One lives on a campus, and I would reach my spouse's department and wait till he came down and then we would drive home. On that day, he noticed while walking to the parking area, that there was a biggish oil patch, most walkers and bikers were avoiding , and so were the cars. There was a danger of skidding and so both he and I carried sand by the handfulls from a heap nearby( early days on construction on campus), and kept pouring it till the oil patch was covered. 2 days letter we get a letter saying how the person was so impressed to see not just my husband but his "lady wife" (as they tend to refer to wives ), doing this work, when all about them were walking about as if they couldnt see the patch.

    What no one knew, was that i had once skidded our two wheeler on the main road , in the rain since I couldnt make out a oil slick patch, and had broken a tooth, and got stitches near the eyes . You dont wish that on anyone.

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    1. Oh Ugich you are so funny...and kind. What a lovely thing to do. It is strange how people take time to avoid something rather than take the time to stop it or make it better. It is always someone else's job. You polr thing. No wonder the sight of the oil spurred you and your husband into action. I hope you and your family are well. Miss your wonderful humour.

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  2. I've often thought about leaving a note for the driver of a car that didn't respect the parking space lane, but I'm usually too busy to take the time. Probably for the best.

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    1. I think it is for the best Kathy. You must see it all the time too. people just take liberties with everything so why not parking rules as well. They get away with it so I guess keep doing it. I should have just left it too but this is the worst park I had ever seen.

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  3. once my husband parked quite badly at a movie theatre, we were late and he was butting into the empty spot in front quite a bit. Someone left a nasty note, I forget the words exactly...like 'learn to drive'. It wasn't that polite. He did deserve it lol.

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    1. He he Christine. I think we are all guilty of bad parking from time to time. That must have been a slap in the face thought to get a message on your car. Bet he has never done it since though lol.

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  4. Oh my gosh Mother Theresa he he. In our street all the residents have to park on the street (old inner city suburb) as not many houses have separate garages. Notes on windscreens are a regular thing. It causes lots of grief in the neighbourhood. People park in front of your house instead of their own and on and on it goes. Reality is it is public parking and people can park anywhere. It is a hot issue that has caused lots of arguments over the years. Looking at that park, I just do not know how someone could get out of their car and not notice how they are parked. Did they think it was meant to be a parallel park? Seriously, they deserved a note to let them know it is not on.

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    1. It is almost a parallel park isn't it. I should have stuck around to find out who was driving it. Middle aged man I reckon.

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  5. LOL...Oh, how I like this. After spending thousands of dollars keeping my old truck, Grumpy, repaired because of door chips and more thousands for the cracked fender, I now park like that too. I don't park near others. I do almost take up two spaces, and I regret having to do this. Then again, I'm a broke old lady driving her last vee-hickle. Thanks for giving me a delightfully opinionated topic for the day. Mea Culpa.

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    1. Hi Mage, thanks for stopping by. At least you do the right thing and do not park near others. I do not either. And yes, it really is an issue with people banging into your car with their car doors, trolleys etc.

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  6. A Mother Theresa type who was once thought to be a drug baron - who would of thought.
    I remember when it was common that people would be paid to stick paper ads under the wipers on all the vehicles in a parking lot. I don't see it much now. We have spam which is much cheaper to distribute. My wife reminds me of my habit of yelling at other drivers. She complains that she is forced to hear it and they don't hear it.
    I suspect the driver knows exactly how to park as to avoid cars parking next to them. On the subject of parking - it bothers me that people will circle around and around looking for the best spot. As if they are keeping score in some universal parking game.

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    1. Well Bill I have had a colourful life lol. On this blog anyway. Yes the ads under the wipers. Thank goodness those days are gone. I had forgotten about that. funny about what your wife said. Yes, but at least you don't use your horn when annoyed like they do here. There must be a lot of people on the verge of heart attacks. They get so angry, so quickly on the road. Yes, I suspect that they just did not want their car scratched either. It is a problem in car parks especially with shopping trolleys. Some people do not care. Just a shame he parked smack bank outside the store like that. He could have done it on the edge of the car park. Ha ha yes, my sister used to do that in car parks and sure enough she would eventually get the best park. I prefer to walk distances and park where no-one else is. Less aggravation that way and my car remain intact.

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    2. I reused a bit of my comment in my post today. Recycling words works great on the internet. I gave you a little shout out with it. Oh BTW, have you ever been called Lilly of OZ? Well you have now.

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  7. No I haven't, but I would like to sometimes. The absolute careless and negligent attitude of certain people really gets up my nose! I hate it when people park their cars on an angle and you can barely open your car door to get inside and don't get me started on people who throw litter into the street or on the beach. That really makes my blood boil!

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    1. Yes, that is why I always park at the edge of the car park (if there is space0 away from other cars. The walk does me good and I do not stress about getting my car scratched. This person parked just outside of the shopping centre and its school holidays and busy. It is just ignorance. I guess they did not want their car scratched or something. And litter? you are so right. Why would you do it when there are so many bins everywhere to put it. I wonder how they live at home.

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  8. Our neighbor left a note saying that we are Crepe Murderers. There's a big debate in this area on how far you trim down the crepe myrtle trees. My parents always cut them low and so we do the same. I thought it was rude, especially when the neighbor wouldn't leave a name. Lol

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    1. Aleta I thought you could cut them to the size and shape that suited you and your yard. How odd that someone would actually send that note to you. The tree is not on common property surely. Worse still that you do not know who sent the note. Which neighbour? people are strange. I know my grandmother used to really prune hers low too. Just another one of those things that people thing there is a right and wrong answer to. Funny world it is.

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  9. I think what we all should do is catch people doing good things and leave anonymous notes of appreciation. How much more positive would the giver and receiver feel. What do you think?

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    1. yes you are quite right. How much better would we all feel. So I am leaving you an anonymous note to say you are a very kind person and I love getting your comments lol. I will definitely try this. I normally give positive feedback to people, like in stores etc, but never thought of notes. Watch out world.

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  10. That parked car is really incredible....lol I have put an anonymous note on mail delivered to my address that wasn't for me....but nothing mean....Just, "DELIVERED TO WRONG ADDRESS". More for the Postman than anything else....

    I have been tempted, I must admit....but, have stopped myself.
    It seems like the commenting by people on the internet on different subjects is often terribly mean---and these people are rather anonymous. I don't like that, at all. It does feel as if people are angrier than ever, doesn't it?

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    1. Yes I think it is easy for people when you are anonymous and sitting behind a keyboard. However, I have never experienced that on my blog ever. People are really nice and friendly and respectful. Yes and that parked car is terrible. However, maybe there was a reason for it like the driver really does have a serious eyesight problem. It was not even as if they were parked at the edge of the parking area. They were smack bang right near the shops.

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  11. Ha! You are waaaay nicer than me. I think I'd have left my anonymous note on the windshield in lipstick!
    xo jj

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    1. Lol truth is I wouldnt waste my good lipstick on them.

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  12. Hmmmm.... I have a really bad memory, Lilly. However, I spent quite a bit of time really, really, really trying to remember if someone had left us an anonymous note or if we'd ever left one. Nope. Can't think of any instance, but NOW you've given me the incentive to write one because we have lots of bad parkers here in Hawaii. Tsk. I have left a note for our neighbor's teenagers who kept parking in front of our mailbox. I signed it though and they've been wary of me since. You'd think that would have cured them right? Nope. They still forget.

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    1. I like Anton's idea Kay. Write a nice note when you see someone doing something nice. I am going to try it. Young kids dont listen to anyone it seems. Bit hard when it is your mailbox though.

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    2. Hmmmm.... positive reinforcement! Sounds good to me.

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  13. Ihave left one for my neighbours with a barking dog. No sleep at all. Nothing changed.

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    1. Barking dogs are a nightmare....especially as now I have one staying with me.

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  14. They deserved a note. It is rude and disrespectful to park like that. Not on.

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    1. I agree. It wasn't an accident they parked like that. It was totally on purpose.

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  15. Hi Lilly,
    This gave me a good chuckle! You really have a way of writing events like this in a very funny and entertaining way. Thank you for bringing laughter to us all who read your posts. Have a great day!

    Tasha

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    1. You are such a sweetheart Tasha. It is lovely to see your comment. How many years have you been dropping by? A long time. Xxx

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  16. My ex wife once received a bunch of flowers from a complete stranger as she waited for me one evening. She certainly wouldn't have got them from me...

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    1. Lol Mike Smith, you never fail but to make me laugh. What were they feeling sorry for her because you were late or something? I once had a guy that came up to me and handed me a card that said ECPECT A MIRACLE. I am still waiting.....

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  17. I try to avoid that kind of passive-aggressive thing. It can be funny, but it also seems cowardly to me. Did you know there is a whole website for anonymous notes that people have spotted?
    http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/

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    1. Oh wow that is a great website. Yes I think people are better to get rid of their aggression in other ways than leave people anonymous notes.

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  18. So.. do you have a wad of post-it-notes in the glove box?

    ;)

    I do.....

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    1. I have lots of things in the glovebox lol Glad to see you back. you always make me laugh and so does that Mike Smith above. You would like each others sense of humour. He cannot help that he is Scottish though..

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