Many of us had one of those moments this week.
You know, the ones. When you are once again reminded of the fragility of life and its surprising twists and turns.
When something like that happens we often feel like we've had an epiphany, and we swear we'll keep that feeling, and learn from it and be forever changed. Until life gets in the way and that feeling slowly drifts away, and we go back to living in the past or the future and existing in the present.
I've had a few of those moments this week. When you pause and think about life. And death.
Yesterday, I saw someone I hadn't seen for a while. I told her she looked fabulous. She told me she had been diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer. And the prognosis was poor.
I didn’t know what to say. My words somehow didn't seem enough. Or appropriate. Instead she said more than I could ever have imagined. She said,
Yes, it's a shock and devastating. I'm just thankful for every minute I have with my family and my friends. I'm telling everyone I know to cherish their life. Make the best of it and live it to the fullest. Don't waste a minute on negativity or causing harm to anyone or anything. Tell those you love how you feel about them. All I know is that if your days suddenly become numbered you will weep bitter tears as your heart cries out for those wasted moments. Don't waste a minute. Please say a prayer for me as spiritual warfare is what I need more than anything right now.
Trials and hardships force us to see what's important in life, and often drive us to change when nothing else will. We see the importance of faith, of love, of caring, and of family and friends. Of looking after ourselves.
Why do we often wait? To live fully in the moment. In the here and now.
Erma Bombeck wrote a piece several years ago called If I Had My Life To Live Over. In it were gems like this: "I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because I just had my hair done. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime."
What about you? Have you had a trial in your life that made you change the way you live? Are you waiting for something or do you live fully in the present enjoying every day as if it was your last?
My prayers go out to everyone who is suffering in any way at the moment. There are a lot of people in the blogosphere who are going through some tough times. Our prayers are precious and powerful. Even those of the tiniest faith are heard.